As a woman dealing with infertility there are classic lines that are NO NO and a DO NOT SAY TO a woman going thru miscarriage or dealing with infertility...this was a list taken from my support forum...
"It's probably for the best."
"It probably wouldn't have been a healthy baby anyway."
"At least it happened early."
"You probably should have waited longer after the last miscarriage."
"My friend had 3 miscarriages before they found the problem." (said after my 2nd)
"Are you pregnant yet?"
"I don't know what to say, I never had any trouble having babies."
"I'm pregnant!"
"Just relax"
"Stress wont help"
"your still young you got plenty of time"
"God has a plan"
"it will happen, I just know it"
"you need to calm down" If it is meant to be, it will happen"
"You shouldn't have children anyway because you have such a busy and full life now"
"Once you stop trying you will get pregnant"
Enjoy this now while you have your freedom"
"--any complaint about your current pregnancy--"
"Do you need to borrow some my husband's swimmers!"
"I had a neighbor who tried for years, and once they adopted, poof! - They got pregnant!"
"Maybe you're trying too hard."
"Miscarriage is just soooo common you know."
"This is just a speed bump."
"Be glad you still have your figure."
"Sometimes you just need to not try so hard"
What is with the Pineapple reference?
The reason this baby is referred to as our little "Pineapple" is because of the nickname Bob gave me after we started IVF. Bob said because I had endured so much, and was so strong I was like a "pineapple". The outer shell of a pineapple is strong, stubborn, hard headed, but once you peel back those layers it's just a mushy, sweet fruit inside. So immediately when we found out we were pregnant the ladies on my board started calling the baby our like Pineapple. So there you have it, how the nick name Pineapple and TTP (Teeny Tiny Pineapple) came to be.
Why a blog?
I wanted to share our Journey of IVF and TTTC with others. It is and was a long difficult road, and I feel that if I can help even one woman find comfort, give suppport, and make a difference even just woman who is going thru infertility or IVF than I have done something wonderful. I've brought a sense of understanding and comfort to someone else. To my fellow TTTCR's I pray for us all, and we will have our babies.....
Our Dream
Some dream of big houses
Or shiny new cars,
Ours is to someday
Hold a baby that’s ours
Some dream of more money
To hoard and to keep,
Mine is to someday
Rock my baby to sleep.
Some dream of careers
In buildings so tall,
His is to someday
Toss his kid a baseball.
Some dream of great power
To be strong and tough,
Ours is to someday
Have a child to love.
Some dream of things
Such as silver and gold
Ours is of the day
Our child we’ll hold.
Or shiny new cars,
Ours is to someday
Hold a baby that’s ours
Some dream of more money
To hoard and to keep,
Mine is to someday
Rock my baby to sleep.
Some dream of careers
In buildings so tall,
His is to someday
Toss his kid a baseball.
Some dream of great power
To be strong and tough,
Ours is to someday
Have a child to love.
Some dream of things
Such as silver and gold
Ours is of the day
Our child we’ll hold.
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
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